Updated: Apr 2, 2022
My story of courage began with being frustrated and then being fed up. It's amazing how a yucky situation can catapult us into change that we end up wishing we'd made sooner. But we don't have to wait for yucky situations. What if we took control of creating and living the life we want without going through the frustration that forces us there anyway?
Try these 3 steps to help you to overcome the doubts and fears that hold you back from fulfilling your dreams.
1. Face Your Fears
Reframe the situation. The words you choose to describe an event can have a profound effect on how you feel about it. View challenges as opportunities and avoid exaggerating negative consequences. Was it really a bad day or did the first part of the morning not go well?
Evaluate inaction. It's natural to want to run away from the things that scare you, but avoidance comes at a high cost. You might lose a friend because you sidestep a sensitive conversation where you could work out your differences.
Manage stress. Maybe you're not even sure about the source of your fears. Dealing with daily stress reduces your anxiety levels, so find relaxation practices that work for you such as meditation or listening to music.
Seek support. Asking for help can be a sign of courage. Reach out to loved ones or a professional if you need help.
Start small. Major undertakings become less overwhelming when you break them down into more manageable parts. Work your way up to asking your boss for a raise by being more assertive in situations where you have less at stake.
2. Strengthen Your Purpose
Dream big. Courage expands your vision. Imagine what you would do if you could set aside any limiting beliefs. Find something that you value more than your pride or comfort. As a friend once told me, "Stop playing small!"
Clarify your goals. To get tangible results, it’s crucial to translate your vision into a practical plan of action. Identify exactly what you're going to do.
Create a timeline. You're more likely to stay on track if you decide what actions you will complete today or by the end of the month. Deadlines increase accountability.
Keep a journal. Put your plan into writing and post it someplace where you can see it. That way it will stay fresh in your mind.
3. Build up Your Confidence
Think positive. Focus on what you have to gain. Use your self-talk to give yourself reassurance and encouragement. Identify areas where you want to make changes, and be willing to laugh at yourself.
Get organized. Cleaning up your surroundings can make you feel more relaxed. Clear off your desk each evening and cut down on clutter at home.
Come prepared. Doing your homework helps you to place more trust in your abilities. Research a company before going on a job interview or talk with a carpenter before tackling a home improvement project.
Stay fit. Caring for your health and wellbeing is one way to value yourself. Eat a balanced diet, exercise regularly, and get adequate sleep and rest.
List your accomplishments. Boost your morale by reviewing your track record. Your past victories prove that you can succeed at future tasks. If you’re struggling to come up with a list, ask your friends and family. We’re usually our own biggest critics. Loved ones help us see wins we sometimes overlook.
Stretch your skills. You'll have more confidence in your abilities when you consistently work at increasing your competence. Take business courses online or study a foreign language.
Train yourself to be brave. Learn to master your fears and persist through challenges. Enjoying a more meaningful life is the ultimate reward of building up your courage!
And, remember, you don't have to go it alone. A coach can help you with many of these steps.
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